Tarantula wondered:

Why is it that people are not serious about relationships anymore? I was seeing this guy, and although I knew I didn't want to be with him as a lover, he was convinced that he and I should be together, and claimed me as his own.

Well, I recently found out that a few days ago, he was in a bar kissing all over some middle-aged guys. The source was a friend of mine who happened to live above the bar. So I called him and asked him about it just to see what he would say. Surprised by the information I had, he admitted to being in the bar, but not to kissing someone, Then the story changed to "I kiss many people on the cheeks, it wasn't that kind of kiss".

Why can't people just be honest and say "I like you but don't want to be exclusive with you" or "Let's be fuck buddies and nothing more"? Why attempt to lead someone if you have no intention of being real with them?

Granted, I didn't care that he did it, but it pisses me off that he feels he has to lie about it, and that he THINKS that I think I'm the only person that he is seeing.

What is wrong with our people today?

Derek advised:

I could comprehend your feeling on this matter. Sometimes the mutual trust is rather important in establishing LTR. The most important thing is does he really love you more than others? If it is destined to be your lover what more you could do than just trusting each other. Be happy!

Rahim added:

I think this is definitely something we all are going through or have been through. There are many out there that aren't at a level of maturity (regardless of age) that would dictate wanting something seriously. I think many have mistakenly bought into the stereotype that all gay guys are about sex and only sex.

We hate that distinction from the world but many of us perpetrate that all the time.

Zemian shared:

Partners who are lying to each other? Sounds like a relationship to me!

What he did was wrong, but human nature nonetheless. Perhaps he really DOES want to stay committed, it's just that he's ashamed to apologize.

2 songs I recommend to you:
- "Sorry Seems to be the Hardest Word" by Elton John
- "Honesty" by Billy Joel

Calvin shrugged:

I also don't understand why people are not serious nowadays. Why?

Derek came again:

I think it's not people don't take relationship seriously nowadays, they just don't know what love means. The greatest science in the world; in heaven and on earth is LOVE. Love bears all things, Love believes all things, Love hopes all things, and most preciously Love endures all things. More often than not, many people say "I love you" but never mean it. Always remember it takes both hands to clap.

Willson believed:

I will always believe in true ever lasting love no matter in straight or gay life as long as we find the right person. It might have been less opportunity to find the right person who is really into a faithful closed relationship but as long as even if there is a slight change, go for it and make sure that you will not regret one day to come. No matter what, we have to be ready for such relationship if we are looking for the same.

Jung opinioned:

"I LOVE YOU" is very easy to say out but they never realise how heavy is the word and the responsible that follows. Nowadays people just say it as there is no responsibility to bear. Maybe it's just a word to get you into bed with them. So be careful. I still stick to my earlier saying , "love is giving him the ability to break your heart but trusting him enough to know that he won't". If you want to love, be prepared to let him break your heart, like you want to eat salted fish, be prepared to get thirsty. Some people would proudly say, well I am NOT hurt, and then I can say that you have NOT really loved. It is just my opinion and you can disagree with me, just my own experience tells me so.

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