Jung doubted:

Do you ever feel pressure to have sex with someone you like after knowing him for a short period (not long enough to really know and understand him), in order to show that you are interested in him and do not wish to give him an impression that you don't like him and losing him? This is because sometimes the sex act is always a way to mean that, well I love you and wish to have a LTR with you. Don't you think so?

Gordon shared:

I did have this feeling when I first met someone that I love after chatting a while on net. We finally met. He is from Singapore . The first time I held his hand and said I liked you very much. And then it happened. But I told him that I would not over do it if both were yet ready to commit to each other. That's in terms of respect. The pressure was I was not sure if I left any good impression thru my performance. Anyway, second time meeting came and he was ready to commit himself and I'm glad to hear that and from there the romance began. No more pressure after that. It's all natural.

Jung replied:

Actually in straight couples there is such thing as " can we wait until our wedding night?".
But in PLU couples, we don't have a wedding night and the first time we have sex means I am yours and you are mine, or this is not the way, it does not really mean anything at all? Well first impression also is important, sometimes afraid people will said, we are so "miang".

Gordon continued:

We really have no wedding night. I thought he married me that night, and that's why I
accidentally did that. Just kidding. Basically we need to have some basic understanding of each other. "Miang" or not it's other matter. Kisses show everything, tenderness, caring and loving. Everything starts with a kiss (my personal point of view only).

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