Jung shared:

I was chatting with a friend who has broken off with his bf. He said to me, life is so boring and dull, I think if I have a bf, I would be happier. I asked him, are you sure? You just had one and see what happened now? He said, well I will find a nice guy this time. I said, you said he was a NICE guy, see, now?

My experiences taught me that being single doesn't necessary mean one's life must be a lousy life. And being with a wonderful bf does not guarantee anything at all, in fact the more you love him, the deeper the hurt when he dumps you. And loving him with all your heart does not guarantee that this relationship will last "forever". So the deeper you love to him, the greater the hurt, that's all.

Sometimes people like to say that, we are only half, we need to find our other half to make our life complete. I am no exceptional but experiences do teach me that it's better not to think that way. It's better to think we are already complete! To place our hopes and
happiness to something that can change (like love in this case) is like putting ourselves in a situation where our happiness is in charge by others.

Maybe lots will think this is a pessimistic thinking, but to me it is realistic, think deeply, but to those who are having wonderful life partner be thankful and treasure him! And may your happiness with him last a lifetime, not many guys in the PLU world are that lucky, you know?

Jung

Yap D'Vogue responded:
You did ask a very good question: ARE YOU SURE you are going to be happy when having a new BF? Exactly, the guy who chatted with you probably would think that the
new BF will fulfill his emptiness and loneliness after he broke off with his ex-BF and therefore he sees the happiness from that point of view.

The higher level you reach, the more pressure you have to go thru, whether on the mountain or the work position you are holding, and not to say about the relationship,
it hurts you more. And the more expectation you have, the more disappointment you are going to experience, that's the reality.

When dealing with Relationship especially Gay Relationship, please do not think or expect of "Forever", we must think that the longer the relationship works, both party should be grateful and appreciate each other effort. It would be better to get yourself ready with "Impermanence". So you won't get hurt so deeply when the relationship doesn't work as you expected.

Actually we are not only half while at the same time we are not yet complete. Without a Bf/relationship, it doesn't mean we are not complete and who has a bf doesn't mean that he is already complete. Who is single and still remaining single can survive and lead to
a happy life while who has a loving bf is a Bonus in his life, and those who has bad Bf, sorry-lah, apa nak buat kalau sendiri sanggup tahan lagi.

Edmond revealed:
I tend to agree with Jung on this issue. The only true happiness can only be found within ourselves. If we depend on others to define happiness, what we will get is blurred happiness or the most temporary ones. But then again, it is easier to be said than done. Time and again, people do fall in love and fall out of love, bringing serious unhappiness.

Love is too commercialized these days.

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